I have noticed years ago from strangers, to friends and family that if you look different you get treated different and if you look normal and act different you get treated different. I wish we lived in a world where looks didn't matter. It isn't just beauty that people look at and desire. It is something that you have to be but also act. Please someone stop that person from acting different now! That is how I feel people view my beautiful children.
My son has sensory integration. This is one of the many terrible things that a child can have. For him it is constant over stimulation and disorganized feelings and thoughts. Wouldn't you feel out of control if you felt this way? Can you imagine hearing everything all at once in the room you are in now and still have to work or concentrate? You hear the a/c, the fan, the clock, someone moving around inside and outside your room, a pencil drop, papers moving around, chairs moving. How would you feel? Could you concentrate? Could you function in a world like that? This is stuff that my son has to deal with every day. That is only one aspect of it. When someone brushes up next to him it feels like a push. Please don't get my started on his clothes and how they have to be big so that they aren't to tight or when he watches T.V. he has his head cocked to the side because it is to much input for his brain. He is labeled a bad kid because he acts out and gets hyper because he LOOKS normal. Shouldn't he be normal if he looks normal? Those are questions that I get asked or at least that is what people look at me and I imagine that they are asking when I get dirty looks. I want to yell at them "HE CAN'T CONTROL IT!!!"
My beautiful daughter. Who couldn't love a face like that? Seriously!??? Beautiful blue eyes, long dark eye lashes, beautiful fair skin, she is gorgeous! But the looks that we get from everyone in the community is enough to drive someone crazy. I try to protect her from those insensitive gazers by turning her around. I'm talking about children who don't know better to senior citizens who should know better. But she is 7 and in a stroller, her feet don't look normal, her eyes don't look normal, and she don't act normal. She acts like a baby, she has had surgery on her eyes and people think that she is always tired. Her feet and legs don't look normal because of surgeries too and that is the first things you see poking out of her stroller. So the staring starts. Praise the Lord for her not understanding and seeing the way people stare at her! I even had a teenager that kept turning around staring at her one day and I looked at her and I said "honey, it's ok, she is disabled." What was bad is that her mother walking with her was so into what she was doing she didn't see and correct her from what she was doing. I know that it is different that she was a 1 lb baby, that she has had more surgeries in 7 yrs than most have in a life time, that she communicates differently. I know all of this! But that doesn't mean that people should stare! She is a loving, fun, silly, beautiful girl that loves going to get her hair done, shopping, swimming, and loves hugs and kisses! She is funny and she will try to get you back if you get her. She also likes her private time and likes to be left alone sometimes, but seriously what girl doesn't sometime?
The point of my ever long rant is that it doesn't matter what is on the outside because everyone is different on the inside. We are all creatures of God and he made us in his image, that makes us all beautiful on the inside and outside! I also pray that everyone gains empathy and understanding of everyone else in this world!
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